At every stage of life, the problems we encounter can create discomfort within us. The intensity of this discomfort depends on how the problem affects us.
Each person reacts differently to problems. This is because everyone's past is shaped by different experiences.
When we share our problems with someone to feel better, we may hear things like “You’re upset about this?”, “Don’t think about it!”, or “This is nothing, others have bigger problems.”
Even if they mean well, these responses can make us feel worse. Because their reaction comes from their own experiences and problem-solving style.
That’s why a problem that feels like an avalanche to you may seem like a snowflake to someone else.
Knowing Yourself
A person knows themselves better than anyone else and should continue to do so. Every day we gain new experiences, and these shape our lives.
In fact, our lives are shaped by the problems we face and the solutions we create.
The first step to overcoming a problem is simple: accepting that it exists.
Understanding the Problem
One of the most effective ways to understand a problem is to research it.
For example, if you realize you have a fear of loss, you can research it, understand its causes, and explore possible solutions.
This is the first step toward a solution. Some problems cannot be solved instantly, but this step helps you understand them better.
Just like understanding an opponent, learning about your problem gives you the power to develop solutions.
Solutions Are Not the Same for Everyone
Methods used to solve problems do not work the same for everyone, just like medicine.
Sometimes they work, sometimes they don’t. It depends on personal experience and how the problem affects the individual.
But this does not mean you cannot find a solution.
We may not eliminate all problems, but we can learn to understand them and live with them.